The third goal misbehaving is revenge, which makes you feel angry, hurt, disappointment, and a sense of dislike. What you usually do is retaliate, punished severely, or withdraw and what the student does in response is continues and intensifies, or stops on their own terms. Origins of behavior are; a reflection of the increasing violence in society and media role models that solve conflicts by force.
The active characteristic of revenge behavior is physical and psychological attack: student is hurtful to teacher, classmates, or both. The passive characteristics of revenge behaviors are students are sullen and withdrawn, refusing overtures of friendship. The student's legitimate need is the feeling of safety and security.
The silver lining in revenge behavior is that students show a spark of life by trying to act themselves from further hurt.
The two principles of prevention are, first to build a caring relationship with the student in the second is to teach the students how to express her and hostility appropriately and invite the student to talk with she or he is upset.
Two intervention strategies are, demonstrate that we care and a personal anger management plan. To demonstrate that we care; we can't love them all, but we can show them all that we care what happens to them. Caring is an action, not a feeling; it's something we do own behalf of the students. We control our actions, even if our feelings are contrary. We can show our caring by taking steps to help revengeful students connect, contribute, and feel capable. Personal anger management plan: questions to have the ask themselves;
What triggers my anger?
What are my body responses to anger?
How do I feel with my anger?
What are the results?
Is my approach effective?
If not, what else could I do?
